In brief
Starting preschool can be a daunting experience for children, often leading to separation anxiety. Experts emphasize the importance of gradual exposure, establishing routines, and providing emotional support. Practical tips include brief goodbyes and validating feelings while encouraging independence. If symptoms persist, consulting a pediatrician may be necessary.
On her first full day of preschool, Alexander Lane’s 3-year-old daughter hesitated at drop-off, remaining in the car for an hour due to anxiety. This is not an uncommon reaction; many children face fear and emotional distress when starting school, especially if it's their first extended time away from their parents. Experts note that this behavior is a natural part of development. Erica Lee, a psychologist at Boston Children’s Hospital, explains that transitioning into a new school year often brings anxiety, which can be expected in young children. If these feelings last too long and impact daily life, they may require a clinical assessment. Lane had foreseen his daughter's nervousness and opted to ease her into preschool rather than overwhelm her. Over the years, educators like Kimberly Skukalek have witnessed numerous instances of separation anxiety in preschoolers. Skukalek emphasizes that parents often share the same fears, particularly if it's their first child entering school. Offering support without indulging a child's fearful responses is crucial, as expressed by psychologist Izabela Milaniak. She advises parents to help their children confront their fears, allowing them to build resilience and independence. One approach is to gradually increase a child’s comfort with separation, which Lee suggests can be practiced through short periods apart, slowly lengthening as the child adjusts. Rituals during goodbye, such as packing lunch together or discussing classroom activities in advance, enhance a child’s preparedness and excitement for school. For children experiencing prolonged anxiety, symptoms may include tantrums at drop-off or reluctance to sleep alone. Lee emphasizes that these fears stem from concerns about caregiver safety and can often be treated effectively with professional guidance if needed. By fostering a supportive environment and gradually introducing independence, parents can help their children successfully navigate the transition into preschool.
